If you want to run forever, some times you can not run today – I will not be running in the 2014 marathon
Life is funny. Hardly anything seems to go as predicted or hoped for. On the other hand, if it has, then perhaps you have not taken too many risks. Me, I love risks and adventure. This journey of marathon has certainly been an adventure filled with risks. As I have learned in 2012 and 2013, you can plan for what you believe will happen but will then be faced with elements you had never imagined. The brutal heat of 2012 struck me down and then the terrible bombing of 2013 redefined what I take for granted in life. Well, the 2014 year has introduced me to an element of challenge that I would have never predicted would stand in the way of me and finally cross the finish line at the Boston marathon. That element is myself. Continue reading
I remind myself every day that people have good intentions. Sure, they may do or say something that is ignorant, but they do have good intentions. This does not allow for me to feel that what they have said or done is acceptable, but it simply helps me understand and be empathetic. More often than not, I find myself working very hard to practice this when people are trying to be of assistance, but are actually being insensitive and honestly unawaringly insulting.
The definition of this word, in my opinion, is very relative. It can vary by country, culture and individual. As endless are the variations of human features, so are the examples of what is a beautiful person. However, there are many messages and values that attempt to dictate what is most beautiful and desirable. This emphasis on a narrow and selective vision for claiming who is most beautiful is harmful and it is out there; straight hair, big boobs, slim build, big muscles, light skin and so many other traits are held with praise over others. At the same time, some have tried to drive culture away from this definition by stating that those with the aforementioned traits are not attractive, or are not what “real” beauty is. Continue reading
I had a whole other post ready to be put up today, but today was an interesting day and I felt inspired to write about something different. I have always found the train system in Boston to be fascinating. It is not fascinating because it can just about get me anywhere in the city, but because of the environment, the culture and the experiences I have been a part of over the last 3 years.
What I will say, is that I feel 95% of the people on the train are in their own little world. People do not really talk to one another (if they don’t already know the other person), rarely make observation or offer to those who may benefit more from a seat and when people do talk, you never know what you are going to over hear. I have heard political debates, people discuss sexual encounters and a few other scandalous things. It is either silent, or entertaining. Continue reading
You never really know what direction this blog is going in. Well, here’s a hell of a turn off the beaten path. Let’s make this clear: I am sharing my observations and thoughts, not my experiences. If you’re someone who thinks this may be “inappropriate”, I say close this page. If you’re hesitant about reading on, be good to yourself and reflect on this…
-Anyone with a disability has thought about this. Perhaps specifically about sex, or about intimacy in general. I would think any person with any disability of any age has thought about this.
-If you’re a parent or family member of one with a disability, you have probably been curious as well. Will my child/family member have a challenge in experiencing intimacy? Yes and no. Challenges are what we make of them. By “we”, I mean those with disabilities as well as those without disabilities. Continue reading
Recently, I started reading a book titled Pride against prejudice: Transforming attitudes to disability, by Jenny Morris (1991 original publication). Jenny is out of the UK and became partialy paralyzed when she was 33. She was tending to work at her home when she heard and saw a very young child standing at the edge of a cliff that was 20 feet above a railway. Jenny went to rescue the child, but she encountered her own troubles and fell off of the cliff; immediately breaking her back and becoming paralyzed from the waist down.
This experience obviously impacted Jenny in many ways. Fortunately, one of them turned into becoming very active in fighting disablism and educating the world on this complex topic, as all topics of oppression, culture and history related to identity are. The book that I am currently reading strongly incorporates the feminist perspective and a lens for viewing disability in general, but also in specific for women. However, the feminist perspective and movement is not just for women. I strongly believe it is a philosophy, a study, a lens and way of life which can and does bring the world under a critical scope that betters the lives of all. Not just women. So for my “brothers” out there, take a chill pill and check this stuff out, for what it really is. Not just what you see on TV or hear in the locker room. Continue reading